I recently received a few emails and forgiveness (in the Christian sense). It seems that it is a subjective term with a subjective definition.
You see, what I mean is forgiveness seems to be framed as this all remitting and all renewing concept. It is for the forgiver, but that doesn't necessarily give someone license to roll back into your life after what they've done.
Forgiveness is letting go, but it doesn't always mean letting in. Especially after you've lived the same rerun of events time and time again.
Now thinking of it in the Christian sense, yes we should forgive. Even when it is the most difficult. But does that mean we should let the same spirit of strife, lack, division, and emotional disease back into our lives.? I think not.
I remember watching an episode of the Oprah Winfrey Show a few years ago and Maya Angelou was a guest. She spoke of how she once met a descendent of the slaveowner who owned her ancestors. She said she forgave that history and that person, but that didn't mean they needed to be best friends.
Sometimes its best to move on.
Sometimes its best to not have the person in your life.
And remember, just because someone isn't interested in reliving or renewing a relationship with someone that doesn't mean they are living in unforgiveness. It means she are smart enough to move on from something or someone she know is not going to change.
You see, what I mean is forgiveness seems to be framed as this all remitting and all renewing concept. It is for the forgiver, but that doesn't necessarily give someone license to roll back into your life after what they've done.
Forgiveness is letting go, but it doesn't always mean letting in. Especially after you've lived the same rerun of events time and time again.
Now thinking of it in the Christian sense, yes we should forgive. Even when it is the most difficult. But does that mean we should let the same spirit of strife, lack, division, and emotional disease back into our lives.? I think not.
I remember watching an episode of the Oprah Winfrey Show a few years ago and Maya Angelou was a guest. She spoke of how she once met a descendent of the slaveowner who owned her ancestors. She said she forgave that history and that person, but that didn't mean they needed to be best friends.
Sometimes its best to move on.
Sometimes its best to not have the person in your life.
And remember, just because someone isn't interested in reliving or renewing a relationship with someone that doesn't mean they are living in unforgiveness. It means she are smart enough to move on from something or someone she know is not going to change.
